Thursday, 21 August 2014

Marriage


Hi, 

Isn't this the cutest!!!
I think it accurately describes the way I feel right now.


Not to long ago, actually... about a month ago.
Kurt and I were attending a Marriage Enrichment course at our church.
WOW! It was really awesome, we learnt so much about one another, the skills of a good marriage, and that we are not the only couple that irritate and get annoyed with one another.
We were taught how to deal with conflict and a particular sentence stuck out for me:
"If you are fighting to be right, you are making your spouse wrong, the loser"
DO YOU WANT YOUR SPOUSE TO BE A LOSER??
We were taught that everyone has a love language.
There are 5 love languages to look out for.
You can spot your spouse's love language by their actions and also the things they complain about.
The 5 love languages:
1. Words of Affirmation
“If this is your love language, you feel most cared for when your partner is open and expressive in telling you how wonderful they think you are, how much they appreciate you, etc.”
2. Acts of Service
“If your partner offering to watch the kids so you can go to the gym (or relieving you of some other task) gets your heart going, then this is your love language.”
3. Affection
“This love language is just as it sounds. A warm hug, a kiss, touch, and sexual intimacy make you feel most loved when this is your love language.”
4. Quality Time
“This love language is about being together, fully present and engaged in the activity at hand, no matter how trivial.”
5. Gifts
“Your partner taking the time to give you a gift can make you feel appreciated.”
We had a session on sex, nothing dirty and "sexual", but sex in marriage and they way that a man and woman's brain is SO VASTLY DIFFERENT.
The session leader played parts of 2 different DVDs (The tale of two brains and Laugh your way to a better Marriage) by Mark Gungor, whom I have become very interested in.
-If you can get hold of those videos, you really should watch them, he is a pastor and keeps things very clean and clear.
 Mark keeps things so simple and explains everything in a very funny way.
He refers to scripture for everything he relates to and I really really enjoyed this session.
Just for the way it was explained and kept so fun and light.
Here are a few of his best quotes: