Marriage

Hi, 

Isn't this the cutest!!!

I think it accurately describes the way I feel right now.



Not to long ago, actually... about a month ago.
Kurt and I were attending a Marriage Enrichment course at our church.

WOW! It was really awesome, we learnt so much about one another, the skills of a good marriage, and that we are not the only couple that irritate and get annoyed with one another.

We were taught how to deal with conflict and a particular sentence stuck out for me:

"If you are fighting to be right, you are making your spouse wrong, the loser"
DO YOU WANT YOUR SPOUSE TO BE A LOSER??

We were taught that everyone has a love language.
There are 5 love languages to look out for.

You can spot your spouse's love language by their actions and also the things they complain about.

The 5 love languages:

1. Words of Affirmation

“If this is your love language, you feel most cared for when your partner is open and expressive in telling you how wonderful they think you are, how much they appreciate you, etc.”
2. Acts of Service
“If your partner offering to watch the kids so you can go to the gym (or relieving you of some other task) gets your heart going, then this is your love language.”
3. Affection
“This love language is just as it sounds. A warm hug, a kiss, touch, and sexual intimacy make you feel most loved when this is your love language.”
4. Quality Time
“This love language is about being together, fully present and engaged in the activity at hand, no matter how trivial.”
5. Gifts
“Your partner taking the time to give you a gift can make you feel appreciated.”

http://www.kevinhalloran.net/what-are-the-five-love-languages-summary/

We had a session on sex, nothing dirty and "sexual", but sex in marriage and they way that a man and woman's brain is SO VASTLY DIFFERENT.

The session leader played parts of 2 different DVDs (The tale of two brains and Laugh your way to a better Marriage) by Mark Gungor, whom I have become very interested in.

-If you can get hold of those videos, you really should watch them, he is a pastor and keeps things very clean and clear.

 Mark keeps things so simple and explains everything in a very funny way.
He refers to scripture for everything he relates to and I really really enjoyed this session.

Just for the way it was explained and kept so fun and light.

Here are a few of his best quotes:





Silly Sausage.

There aren't many things that excite Kurt October.
His a simple man with a good head on his shoulders.

He enjoys the finer things in life, he can lay on the couch for hours and do nothing.... or build sub boxes, fine tune his car sound system, eat, watch TV, play xbox and spend time with his blady fantastic fiancé.

However one of the few things that really excite him is... dum dum dum duuuum FOOD.

Kurt loves food.

He loves creating food and coming up with seemingly strange concoctions.

A few Examples:

Kurt's dad came home one weekend with a box full of springbok meat.
So Kurt decided he is going to create a masterpiece.
He melted dark chocolate and soaked the springbok chops in it, put it in the oven and made a sticky-chocolate- type chop.
Although it tasted like ... not fantastic, its the thought that counts isn't it :)

A few weeks after meeting me he made a BIG pot of PEANUT BUTTER pasta which to this day I can still remember as being freaking awesome.

He let me know earlier today that while I wash my hair and beautify myself, he will make us Cauliflower Pizzas.

Maybe next time I can add a pic of that creation too.

I'll take that Burger thank you...

 

So, my fiancé and I got the best news.

SO SO Exciting!!!

Cannot wait to go dress and ring shopping.

I DOnt Know Anymore

 

I have been so drawn to this phrase laterly.

 

It so accurately describes how I have been feeling... lost, excited. expectant, happy, sad, childish, stressed, angry, passionate and frustrated.

 

Isn't there supposed to be a warning label on all engagement rings.

" Wear with care "

" Might cause copious amounts of frustration " 

" This does not mean you are a push over "

" Beware: ALL your long lost family and distant friends now know who you are "

" Enjoy your money while you can "

etc.

 

My fiancé and I have never been the kind to fight or get stuck in one another's hair, yet the past 6 months we have been fighting, arguing, irritated and frustrated.

 

If its not venues, then its what to wear, who to invite, where to go, what to do....the dreaded question, WHO PAYS FOR WHAT?

 

 

Guess its just another step on the stepping stones of life.